Well well well. Frank is back in da house.
And yes I do have pretty much the same predicament: how to wire up my 9.5" lcd to my mp3 box (that's a project in the works)... As I write this, i've found one option:
http://earthlcd.com/controllers.htm. The only problem with that is that it's not cheap.
I've seen a site where they explain the wiring but can't find the damn place anymore. If/when I find it, i'll post it RIGHT HERE.