More runescape.. ya i already read ALL the other topics.

when I try and connect to my comp at home, from school, I get a 10061 error, my comp at home is apparently refusing the connect, it says
"unable to connect to host: Connection refused (10061)"
At home I have a password on it, but I know the pass and figured it would prompt for it when I try and connect. Also, I have it on accept thru port 5900, and when I put my VNC adress:5900, it still doesn't work.
Any help would be appreciated.